I believe strongly in multiple lives. If you are reading this there is a good chance you do as well. Everything I have experienced in this lifetime strongly suggests this. And, it just makes sense (to me and many others that have lived on this planet). But even though we may believe in multiple lifetimes and we know that the bonds of love are not severed at physical death and we can connect with our loved one in the spiritual realms, we still grieve.
Enny and I work often with people that are grieving. People come to us on the recommendation of a friend or have seen our website or by other means (of course they are guided by the universe to connect with us) and may not fully understand the mechanics of the crossing over process or what has happened to their loved ones. As we connect with their loved one(s) on the other side, they always talk about how good and free they feel, especially if they had endured a long, debilitating illness. They feel reborn, and in many senses they are. They have shed the confines of their bodies and are now free to explore without nearly as many boundaries or conditions for life as they had on the earth. Healing on many levels takes place and they grow and become more than what they were while they were in physical form. So, in many ways, the death of their physical bodies has become a birth into a new and higher realm of existence. On the physical plane, there is grieving of their loved ones, but in the spiritual realms there is a lot of happiness and celebration as friends and families separated by the worlds, reunite.
When a child is born there is much rejoicing and celebrating. Not only because the long ordeal of pregnancy is over, but especially because a "new" life has entered the world. The beauty and the newness of a birth is something that is truly beautiful. Newborn babies tug at our hearts, make us want to hold and cuddle with them, and creates a gentleness in us that may not be there while we are forging our path through the physical world. We often take time out and pause to look at a child and tell the parents how beautiful they are. There is often a lot of activity around babies when they are out in public and sometimes a crowd gathers. So there is a lot of good energy and celebration with a new child coming into the world.
But what about on the other side? The friends and family that are still in the spirit world are mourning the loss of their loved one as they become a new body and personality. The person that everyone knew has now become someone totally different. There is a happiness for the new life, but also a sadness for the loss. There can be a funeral celebration on the other side that can be similar to a funeral celebration we may have here when someone crosses over. It is about remembering the person that was, and celebration the person that is to be.
I believe there would be a lot more connection to the life and death process if we rethought how we celebrated or mourned those that are transitioning through the worlds. At a funeral on the earth plane, there could be a memorial and remembrance, and at the same time a happy party and celebration for their rebirth. When a new baby is born there should be a great celebration but also a memorial service for the person that has just lost their previous identity and who they were. In this way we would be more connected to both realms, and able to be in tune with the actual birth and death process. So, the next time a loved one crosses over, or a new baby is born, celebrate, yet mourn in the way that is most appropriate for you, and in the process you will truly be connected to the one it is all dedicated to.